LOVE OR IS IT??

During the weekend i stumbled...no..literally bumped into esther arunga and her man quincy...stuck to each other as usual...my...you wonder...do they ever let each other go?
Now if your new in Kenya you'd probably think awwwww when you see the two of them together...but if you know the story....ull probably be more of hmmmm...

So it got me thinking...love is such a strong emotion that people will do anything and go anywhere for it...or perhaps its blind as the saying goes...coz you look at the girl..she's smart right...law degree and all...and then the guy...that reputation...and before u give me the "opposites attract" vibe surely, are we all that desperate for love?

According to my pastor...yes!

When we were created, God intended us to have two main things...to love and to have purpose...this need to love and be loved is what makes us relate with each other and with Him. The flipside however is that in our quest for love we end up in all the wrong places and the result is hurt, bitterness and a quiet or loud desperation.

Any woman will tell you that rejection is a big NO-NO on her list...do whatever else..but reject her..that cuts really deep...so for most women the defense mechanism after being rejected is to two things...

1. find another man she can show off to her ex...as in...refer to beyonces song "irreplacable"
2. keep chasing after the same guy making him try to love her again.

The point is..she needs to be loved...

Ladies...either of the two is not the way to go...

What we need to do is first define what love is to us...the only way to do that is to go to the One who created love...(want to fix a problem..read the manual). The bible says God is love...find out, what was Gods intention when he gave us love? How was it to be used and felt? Until you get that euqation right...you cannot go to the next problem and solve it.

Next question is do you love you? coz if you do not love you...its difficult to expect others to love you. Take a good look in the mirror...what do you like...what do you hate? What attitudes do you need to change?

When you define love from God's perspective, your way of relating with people changes...its coz you realize that sometimes what you are looking for in a man or woman to fill that void...can only be filled by God.

So back to Esther and Quincy....they are not the only one with a warped relationship here...im sure if you look around there's someone you know and just wish would end that "looser boyfriend/girlfriend." Maybe it's you with the looser...is it time for change?