GFNTB'S

You know ive nyamazad on this story mpaka i cant no more..i know its not the whole lot of the male fraternity but after doing so many stories about guys bailing out on their women i thot its time to just say some things about GFNTB's or as Destiny's Child put it..."good for nothing type of brothers"

Now jana i did a story about a baby who was born with teeth (www.ntv.co.ke)...a rare but not a freakish thing..there are babies who are born with this condition..so anyway..the father of the baby bails on the mum ati coz the baby is weird and neighbors are talking and the stories have gone as far as to say well..i guess u can imagine how wild the story has gone since they live in some shags place..

My big question was: what the hell? As in, he just left her to deal with the drama of neighbors and relatives and oh by the way, she still has three other kids she is taking care of...whatever happened to being the man of the house? The head of the home?

Now lets go to the more normal occurance of guy bouncing when chik gets pregnant or guy giving the "im not going out with her line coz her success intimidates me" line..Now i know there are those chiks who weka guys kwa box and then there are those who like to intimidate men...but honestly..thats not all of them...what of the gal u promised u loved and would stik with her no matter what? What changed?

I think that a lot of guys need to stand up and take their place as men in their families..some men have gotten so passive..its sickening...they no longer play their role of provider, protector and priest of their homes..thats just whack! Im not saying that women should just sit back and wait for their men to bring home the bacon but it was never Gods intention that the woman does both male and female jobs in a marriage..in Gods kingdom there is division of labor...but for most people the mum is the mum and dad...ah aah!

Ok, ur mum raised you all by herself and you turned out ok..but think about it...werent there days when u just wished..dad would do this for me instead? or dad would be better fit to understand this? or it would have meant more if dad had said it?

I think its time that men took their position...generations are getting lost because a man did not play his role in the family...no its not a "women's thing" to pray...The man is the head of the home just as Christ is the Head of the Church...tnd you are meant to take care of ur family..whether you are ready for it or not...honestly, a whole testosterone popping dude who claims to be "a man" but hepas the woman and leaves her to ng'ang'ana when things get thick? Which strength is this we are talking about now?And on that note ya'll need to be with your woman in labor ward so u experience just what krap ur putting her thru when u say atajipanga...or if u do not want that drama..why even get into it in the first place?

As i said earlier, chiks are no angels in all of this...there are devils who connive to put men in boxes..but theres a group of ladies who have learnt (most probably from their father figures) that in this world, u stand up for urself...no man can take care of u...or worse, they will just use you...ladies, not all men fall in this category...there are those men who are standing up and taking their position in the family...they are the guys who have decided not to make the decisions their dads made. They are few..but they are there

I know most of us did not grow up with father figures that we can look up to..thats why Mothers day is more celebrated than Fathers day..but we are not our fathers..we can be different.

So as you chill out for the weekend...we need each other...we all have different and specific roles to play and we need to ensure we play them so our universe remains in balance...failure to which..kesho i will be doing another shenzi-type story of another man who did not stand up to his responsibilities.